When You Want More Sex Than Your Partner

What You Need to Know About Desire Discrepancy

 

 

If you want more sex than your partner does,
you’re not alone - and there's nothing wrong with you for feeling that way.


A 75–90 minute workshop for partners who want more or different sex in their relationship—and are looking for clarity, validation, and practical solutions for how to manage it.

 

Join the Workshop

If You’re the One Who Wants More…

 

You’re tired of pretending it doesn’t matter.


You initiate.
You get turned down.
You try not to take it personally — but you do.

Maybe you feel:

  • Rejected
  • Undersirable
  • Frustrated
  • Lonely in Your Relationship

You’ve tried talking about it.
You’ve tried backing off.
You’ve tried being patient.

Nothing really changes.

Desire discrepancy is common — but that doesn’t make it less painful.

This workshop isn’t about fixing your partner.

It’s about understanding the dynamic so you can stop unintentionally making it worse — and start building something healthier.

The Workshop: When You Want More Sex Than Your Partner

In this 75-90-minute workshop, you’ll gain clarity about what’s actually happening beneath the desire gap.

You’ll learn:

  • Why your feelings make sense

  • How desire naturally fluctuates over time

  • How the lower-desire partner often experiences the dynamic

  • What truly fuels (and shuts down) desire

  • How pursuit and pressure reduce sexual energy

  • Whether sex has become your primary way of feeling valued

This is not about getting your partner to change.

It’s about shifting your relationship patterns so connected intimacy has room to grow.

What You’ll Gain


By the end of this workshop, you will:

  • Understand erectile dysfunction in a way that removes self-blame
  • Learn why ED is not a reliable measure of attraction or desire
  • Feel validated in the emotional effects of erectile dysfunction
  • Recognize relationship patterns that quietly erode intimacy
  • Learn how to talk about erectile dysfunction with your partner without shutdown or pressure
  • Know your next step—emotionally and relationally
Yes, I want to enroll in the workshop

Is this Workshop right for you?

This Workshop Is for You If:

  • You consistently want more sex than your partner.

  • You feel rejected, frustrated, or confused about the gap.

  • You’re tired of repeating the same conversation.

  • You want to understand the dynamic — not escalate it.

  • You’re willing to look at your side of the pattern.

This Workshop Is Not For You If:

  • You want strategies to pressure your partner into more sex.

  • You believe your partner is the entire problem.

  • You’re looking for a quick fix.

  • You’re unwilling to reflect on how you influence the cycle.

This workshop focuses on understanding, emotional clarity, and relational impact—not medical intervention or sexual performance.

Claim My Spot

Hi, I'm Dr. Heather England, your trainer

 

I’m a psychotherapist, relationship expert, and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist with a PhD in Clinical Sexology and an MBA in leadership.

I work primarily with high-achieving midlife individuals and couples who look successful on the outside but feel disconnected behind closed doors — especially around sex.

Over the years, I’ve seen how painful desire discrepancy can be. The higher-desire partner often feels rejected and alone. The lower-desire partner often feels pressured and inadequate. Both feel misunderstood.

I created this workshop because this pattern is incredibly common — and rarely explained well.

My goal isn’t to help you “win” the desire battle.
It’s to help you understand the dynamic so you can build a foundation where intimacy feels mutual, connected, and sustainable.

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The Details

Join me for this 75-90-minute live training.  
You can choose to have your camera off if desired. 
The replay is included if you're unavailable during the live session.

Workshop Schedule:
Thursday, April 30
10:00 - 11:30 CST

Enrollment closes April 28


Workshop Cost: $47

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  • 1 live session (75-90 minutes)
  • Teaching, reflection, and Q&A
  • Limited-time replays
  • Confidential, respectful space
I’m Ready to Change This

Frequently Asked Questions

A Supportive Step Forward

Coping with desire discrepany in a relationship can feel isolating—and it can cause you and your partner to disconnect.

This workshop offers:

  • Language for what you’ve been feeling

  • Understanding both you and your partner's experience

  • Tips about what to do and what not to do

  • Direction to enhance your intimacy

Yes, I want to enroll in the workshop

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