You Can Thrive in Midlife.
Life isn’t over at 40.
In fact, it’s just getting good.
For women in midlife who have spent decades doing what they should -
and are ready to reclaim agency, identity, intimacy, and choice.
You’ve been capable, responsible, and strong for a long time.
You’ve built a life that looks good on the outside—but something inside is asking for more honesty, more alignment, and more room to choose what you want next.
This is a space for women who are ready to stop living by expectation
and start living by intention.
What many women in midlife realize:
They’ve been living by a set of invisible rules they never consciously agreed to.
Rules about:
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Who they should be
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What they should prioritize
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How much they should give
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What is “reasonable” to want
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How much space they’re allowed to take
For high-functioning women especially, productivity, caretaking, and competence often become stand-ins for worth. Over time, that can lead to burnout, resentment, disconnection, or a sense of having lost touch with oneself.
Not because anything is “wrong”—but because the life you’re living may no longer fit who you are becoming.
Here’s the truth many women were never told:
You are allowed to choose your life.
You are allowed to question the roles you’ve been playing.
You are allowed to want something different—even if what you have looks “fine.”
You are allowed to redefine intimacy, relationships, work, purpose, and identity in ways that feel authentic to you now.
Reinvention doesn’t require blowing up your life.
It starts with reclaiming agency—and giving yourself permission to listen.
"I FINALLY LOVE MYSELF."
Heather helped me understand why I was such a perfectionist and out everyone's needs ahead of my own. I learned to set boundaries and assert myself at work and in my personal relationships.
Sarah
"THIS SAVED MY MARRIAGE"
I never realized how unhappy I was with my marriage until Heather helped me feel great about myself and then showed me how to start changing things in my relationship. Now, my husband spends time with me and I feel like we have a second chance at the relationship I thought we'd always have when I was a young bride and we were crazy in love.
Janet
"I NO LONGER AVOID SEX."
Heather’s warmth, caring, and direct style gave me the courage to talk about sex and helped me learn why I didn't enjoy sex. I learned how to be more interested in sex and how to be better at it.
Shauna
Let's Work Together
I support women in midlife through experiences that help them reconnect with themselves and intentionally design what comes next.
You don’t need to have everything figured out to begin.
You just need curiosity—and permission to choose.
Ways to work together include:
Private Coaching
High-touch, individualized support for women navigating identity shifts, relationship changes, or major life transitions.
Group Experiences
Guided spaces for women who want connection, reflection, and momentum alongside others walking a similar path.
Workshops & Trainings
Focused experiences exploring agency, identity, intimacy, desire, and redefining worth beyond productivity.
I help women release the invisible expectations that have shaped their lives and reclaim the authority to choose what they actually want.
In the Media
A bit about me ...
I'm Dr. Heather England
Psychotherapist by training, coach and educator by practice, and someone who has reinvented her life more than once.
West Point grad. Mom of four. Veteran. Entrepreneur. Former corporate senior manager. MS. MBA. PhD. Creative dreamer and lifelong learner. Midlife woman reinventing her life—just like you.
My work is informed by decades of experience supporting individuals and couples, along with my own lived experience navigating achievement, caretaking, career reinvention, relationships, and midlife identity shifts.
I believe deeply in women’s capacity to choose differently—to create lives rooted in agency, connection, meaning, and vitality rather than obligation or expectation.
This work isn’t about fixing yourself.
It’s about remembering who you are and living accordingly.
Whether you're healing past wounds, figuring out who you want to be in your next chapter, or trying to strengthen relationships, I'm here for the journey.
Because I’ve lived it.
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YOU. CAN. CHANGE. YOUR. LIFE.
Yes you can! You can create a meaningful and fulfilling next chapter of your life. It's right there waiting for you!
This is the right place for you if...
- You’re in your 40s, 50s, 60s (or beyond).
- You're feeling overwhelmed, stuck, or burnt out.
- You’re successful on the outside but wish you were happier.
- You’ve been the caregiver, the fixer, the strong one for so long. It's exhausting.
- You're in a relationship that feels more like roommates than lovers and you want to rekindle intimacy and connection.
- You're facing changes from menopause, low desire or your partner's erectile dysfunction (ED).
- You're trying to figure out who you are as your kids become adults and need you less.
- You're ready to finally focus on yourself.
- You want to explore what comes next: in love, purpose, health, intimacy, or joy.
Ready to Create a Wonderful Next Chapter?
If you’re at a point in life where the old rules no longer fit—and you’re curious about what might be possible next—you’re in the right place.
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